How To Start Loving Yourself Now

23 January 2015

How to start loving yourself now January blues
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Hi guys,

A different post is on the agenda today.

I haven't spoken about my feelings on my blog for a while.. probably because I imagine it's pretty boring to read! But I thought, instead, I'd put a positive spin on a tough time I'm going through right now. So, here are ways I'm going to start loving myself more. Hopefully it will come in handy to anyone else who's also suffering with a case of the January blues..

How To Start Loving Yourself Now

♥ Get rid of all the negative influences in your life
I'm talking guys who have made you feel worthless; so-called "friends" who only want you when it's convenient; people you feel you have to keep around because of shared history, but who aren't positive influences on your life any more. Take a deep breath and delete that number. I struggle with this myself, but even as I wrote this paragraph, I deleted that guy's number.

♥ Listen to music that fills you with happiness & confidence
I seemed to stop listening to music for a while (unheard of for my teenage self!), but lately it's been one of the things that has got me through tough days. If I start to feel panicky or overwhelmed, out comes the music. For me, it's Stevie Nicks, Florence & the Machine, Katy Perry, Lana del Rey et al. Strong ferocious ladies who don't take any crap. I find that inspiring.


♥ Make time for yourself
I've started taking more time to read books, indulge in my skincare routine, book massages and reignite my passions for the things I used to love. When my self esteem slides, all I want to do is sleep and eat, and it's not healthy. Sometimes you do really need those things, but not when they are all that you do. Light that Jo Malone candle (like I just did), crack out a face mask and slip into fresh sheets. Or, even simpler, a cup of tea really is a remedy for anything - I never believed that until I tried it.. your mum is always right.

♥ Take time out to be more mindful & clear your mind
One thing I used to do, and something I'm going to do before I go to sleep tonight, was use the Headspace app - an app focused on the practices of mindfulness and meditation. For only 10 minutes a night, you can free your mind of thoughts and feel more grounded. I don't know about you, but when I'm over-thinking and worrying, I need to centre myself and focus on simple things like the rise and fall of my chest and the background noises around me.

How do you take care of yourself when you're having a bad case of the January blues? Let me know in the comments below!

xoxo

15 comments:

  1. Love this. I'm trying to be much kinder to myself this year as it's something I've struggled with in the past. I've let go of toxic friendships, realised who isn't worth the effort and focused on those who are. One of my favourite things to do in order to make myself feel a bit better is get all cosy in my bed with lots of pillows, blankets, a cup of tea and a good book. So cliche but just can't beat it. x

    Charlotte / coloursandcarousels

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    1. Thank you :) And, that was pretty much my position whilst I wrote this post; getting cosy with a cup of tea under the duvet is definitely such a soothing thing x

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  2. Mindfulness also really helps me in these situations. I also read a hell of a lot - books take me to a whole new world where I love being. Running is one of the classic ways to exercise demons - at least for me! Cannot beat pounding the pavement for frustration. And finally, take every day for what it is that day, I try and just focus on this one day that I have and how I spend it, as opposed to thinking about yesterday or tomorrow - those I can't impact, today I can! xxx

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    1. Wonderful words there Rachel - it really is about taking each day as it comes and focusing on making the best of it :) I need to start running! xxx

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  3. This was so helpful and lovely, thank you for sharing this. <3 I'm on the journey of finding self-love so I found this extremely inspiring. Xxx

    http://thoughtsintiffanyblue.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thank you Anne! I'm so pleased you enjoyed reading my post :) Good luck with your journey xxx

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  4. Such a lovely post! I have the January blues too and have been overthinking way too much lately. That app sounds like it might help though :) I find that arranging meet-ups with my friends makes me feel better so I have things to look forward to. xx

    LovefromLouLou.com

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    1. Thanks Lou Lou :) absolutely, I'm going to start filling my diary up more with plans to catch up with friends xx

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  5. I completely agree that you have to get rid of negative influences in your life.

    Lizzie Dripping

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    1. Glad to hear it! It's so important

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    1. No problem - thanks for reading :) x

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  7. Gosh this is such a sweet post -Hanna Lei

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  8. This is wonderful! Especially the last point, about being mindful. Such a good reminder during these dark January days!

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  9. Aww, I need to try that app! January is definitely a tough month, and I've had my ups and downs as well! What helps me is definitely writing in my online journal, watching Gilmore Girls, and going for a walk/run outside! Good food helps too :)

    -Lisa
    everydayelevated.blogspot.com

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Thanks for reading! xo